Profoundly Found: Kashmirs

I have not been the same since I spoke to the man from Kashmir. 

He caused a fissure in my unseen life: which is a trail inside me, never surfacing and wide enough for one person to walk.

A path about which I rarely speak  because I don’t know where the hell it’s taking me; 

and I prefer to look cool and self-directed like the women on TV: my lipstick flawless and my nails contoured and glistening like scarab beetles….


A man I do not know threw a veil between me and the world.  A mourning shroud.





A1 Plexus; thread, wood, hooks and steel; 2015. Gabriel Dawe, born Mexico City, 1973, lives in the United States.

Installed at the Renwick Museum, the craft musuem of the Smithsonian Museum of American Art, Washington, DC



I remember thinking:  do I need a man whom I do not know to throw me into a grief for a place I do not know

when there are men and places that I do know whose names are ‘Grief’ to me?



But this Kashmir grief, of course, is itself a pointer elsewhere. It is not self-contained.





CreditBettmann Archive/Getty Images 

Published in the NY Times on August 15, 2019 with an opinion piece by Arundhati Roy, Silence is the Loudest Sound.




It overflows down its mountains, seeps its way across the subcontinent; merges with oceans to lap at other shores, infiltrates distant deltas; carries itself in rain to yet other mountains and valleys.

To disrupt the lives of people far away.



Kashmir – I understood that from the moment he pronounced the word – pulsing on the edge of my conscious mind which had assured me that I need not be concerned because I am neither Indian nor Pakistani –  that that word would represent to me 


exile, civil war, the loss of whole generations

women brutalized as a tool of war

children traumatized for all their lives

the gratuitous destruction of homes and peoples and institutions

the suborning of the religious systems which sustain populations.


Everywhere in the world where there is civil war and forms of ethnic cleansing. 


Kashmir by any other name.



As to why a man I don’t know speaking his sorrow about a place I don’t know can discombobulate me like this:


I don’t know because that trail does not  reveal its ways and means to me and none of us knows where our thoughts arise.  


The trail beckons me on.

Pushing sometimes because thick brambles obscure the path behind me so that I cannot go back.


What I do know is this:  the Heart has its reasons of which Reason knows nothing;


and it is the Heart which is the mistress of the places, people, knowledge, emotions which profoundly find us.





Veil from Thetis, ink, pigment, gesso on paper, 2013.  Sam Messenger, British born 1980




And whenever the Kashmir Worldwide Desolation threatens to incapacitate me, I recite this as a consolation of the world’s unending, regenerating and multiform life:




Any Common Desolation

can be enough to make you look up
at the yellowed leaves of the apple tree, the few
that survived the rains and frost, shot
with late afternoon sun. They glow a deep
orange-gold against a blue so sheer, a single bird
would rip it like silk. You may have to break
your heart, but it isn’t nothing
to know even one moment alive. The sound
of an oar in an oarlock or a ruminant
animal tearing grass. The smell of grated ginger.
The ruby neon of the liquor store sign.
Warm socks. You remember your mother,
her precision a ceremony, as she gathered
the white cotton, slipped it over your toes,
drew up the heel, turned the cuff. A breath
can uncoil as you walk across your own muddy yard,
the big dipper pouring night down over you, and everything
you dread, all you can’t bear, dissolves
and, like a needle slipped into your vein—
that sudden rush of the world.










5 thoughts on “Profoundly Found: Kashmirs

  1. “A man I do not know threw a veil between me and the world. A mourning shroud.” Yes, yes and yes. So many Kashmirs. The greedy elite so busybusily delivering hell around the planet, and in the name of democracy while they arrange to make boltholes for themselves in remote places and think their money can make a life and protect them from the mess they’ve made for everyone else. And all one can think is: how dare they! But then your heartfelt thoughts and the fine words of Ellen Bass, and faith in the world. Tx

      1. I think we’ve been asleep; victims of calculated mass distraction tactics. Some days I feel like Rip Van Winkle, waking up to a horror show. I am having difficulties processing it. So your post is most gratefully received.

  2. Sometimes we encounter grief so vast that it seems to encompass all the sorrows of the world and it refers us to our own sorrows

  3. Let us give peace a chance. Enough hatred has been spread by opportunists for the last 72 years causing much bloodshed. This decision has not upset common people from J&K but leaders who were leading a luxurious life on public money. This decision has also affected the Pakistani army and its generals who were fooling the simple populace of Pakistan in the name of J&K while filling their own pockets. Has anyone ever checked how is General Parvez Musharaf affording to stay in Dubai on his pension? Has anyone questioned how the so-called leader in J&K have beautiful houses and their children study in international schools, whereas they have never ever worked in their whole life? Get answers to these questions and we would get the answer where we are going wrong and who are the real enemies.

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